#SelfCare 4 U

Well, that election happened... Whether you’re #StillWithHer, making your voice heard or trying to move forward, it’s been quite an exhausting couple of weeks. Even social media, once awash with puppy memes and creepy engagement photos (wait, are some of those creepy, or is it just us?), now feels like a triggering stressor made for total meltdown.

On top of it all, the winter holidays are here and the worries of traveling, spending money on gifts, being back with or away from family, and changing of seasons can be stressful AF!

During these challenging times, it’s important to take care of your mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Self care is so necessary. In order to fight the world, you gotta start by taking care of numero uno!

via @hanseltanner

via @hanseltanner

Four things you can do right NOW to really treat yoself:

  • BREATHE - Inhale the good shit. Exhale the bullshit.  When things feel like they’re getting crazy, take a moment to simply breathe. Just in case you forgot how to breathe, here’s how we like to do it
    • Practice closing your eyes, inhaling your breathe deeply for 5 seconds, and slowly exhale for 6 seconds.
    • Repeat this for 5 rounds to really focus on your breath and hearing your heartbeat relax.
  • Log off and Disconnect - Social media can be super consuming and the pressure to post, tweet, reply, etc can be a lotta extra. How about a FB detox? An low-instagram diet? It’s  okay to put your phone down, log off social media, or… if totally necessary, temporarily deactivate your accounts. Turning off the outside noise can be helpful to hearing your own voice again. Just pleaseeee don’t be one of those people who is all like “hey eveyrone, i’m going off Facebook for a while, but feel free to text me!” Like, no, boo, it’s a desperate look. #Sorrynotsorry.
  • It’s okay to say NO - Self-care means taking care of yourself and that can mean saying “no” to other commitments, people, and activities. We can’t always be everything or everywhere and it’s okay to prioritize what you need to do for yourself first. If you’re a person who has a hard time saying “no,” then you kNOw what we’re saying (couldn’t resist the pun, hello!). Saying “no” is as simple as breathing (see tip #1).. All you have to do is literally just say this: “I would really love to, but unfortunately I won’t be able to.” That is literally it. You don’t even need to make up an excuse or life or get defensive.  You’ll find your true friends will totally get it. And if they don’t, um, hello, might be time to find new friends!
  • Create! - In trying times, one of the most cathartic things you can do is create (Thanks Beyonce, Adele, and Taylor Swift for the inspo). We all have hobbies and the potential to make some beautiful work while we use our creativity to give us some therapy. So paint a picture, make up a dance, write a story, and let those creative juiceboxes flowwww.


In the words of Rupaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the HELLLLL are you going to love somebody else?” I mean, can we get an amen? AY-MEN. Go out and get ‘em and let us know how it goes in the comments below!