Instructor Spotlight: Bex
Forget the girl-next-door, Bex. is the pop-music-star-next-door: all glam, no ego. The uber talented singer, dancer, and teacher gave us the inside scoop on what it takes to make it. Spoiler alert: it's a whole lotta hustle.
Where are you from originally?
I grew up in Port Jefferson, a small historical town on Long Island! I started traveling into the city (that's what Long Lsland girls call Manhattan ..."the city") at a young age for Broadway shows, dance classes, and museum visits. I always felt a closeness to NYC, so I feel extremely comfortable with the fast pace, the direct attitude, and hustle that's part of NY´s character.
You've done, like, a lot of stuff. What are the three things you're most proud of accomplishing up to this point in your life?
#1) Being printed in Sports Illustrated. Ok, so it was literally only one third of my body (my midriff), but it was serious #lifegoals. I was an obsessive crazed college football fan at Penn State, and a photo of me with my stomach painted by my artistic roommate was printed in the magazine. Honey, this extra-ness didn´t just happen one day, it´s been years in the making.
#2) Hearing myself on the radio for the first time, spontaneously. I knew my music had started being picked up, but I hadn't heard it happen. It´s the weirdest feeling to hear the first .01 second of a song, the tiniest bit of the first instrument, and your gut reacts! Because you know those sounds in the music so well, you were in the room on the final edit...it's a very different kind of reaction than hearing any other song.
#3) Acting as a strong partner to my husband and allowing him to act as a strong partner for me. Going through the ups together is fabulous, but the downs are there too—and they are intense. I've had to dig deep for my womanly strength at times so we could get through challenges that were hurled at us. I'm extremely grateful for him. Though I'm prepared for even tougher times, I know we'll find that strength to do it. To me, that's a raw, non-sugarcoated accomplishment!
Your music is SO catchy. And dancey. I'm dancing right now as I ask these questions. What is your inspiration when you're putting together tracks?
Inspiration comes from all over! Real experiences! The one I'm asked about a lot is "What You Are." I wrote it as a reaction to writer's block, and to be honest, out of fear. I had just had a successful run of my first big single, "Life of the Party," and everyone was expecting an even better follow-up. And fast. So I felt pressure to write this perfect song, a true hit song, and to have more success.
I started thinking about this idea of perfection, and how our society's idea of perfection is so unrealistic. I love more than anything celebrating the uniqueness between us (do I NOT say that ALL THE TIME in my classes?), so I wrote how that is my idea of perfection: "Let me see that ugly side, with all the dirty thoughts you hide....not scared to watch you bare what's raw, oh give me all of what you are. I´ll take you dirty, sexy, ugly, perfect." It was sort of an F-U to unrealistic standards that keep try to push us down—and at the same time, fighting back by letting all our freak flags fly.
How does ((305)) fit into this big bold life you're put together?
I love our ((305)) clients...they have so many different interests and careers, but the commonality is a need for a shared experience and letting go! Creating that for our Junkies is a truly amazing part of my day. Instructing also focuses me for the rest of my day. I'm sharper, more focused, and more creative after teaching class. Fitness and music are both major passions of mine, so ((305)) fits perfectly with my life and goals!
What's your favorite part of a ((305)) class?
So many parts! The hip hop section because of how hot the Junkies look in the blacklights. And after the first sprint, because I love seeing a weird combo of relief and new focus from the clients. Also whenever "Wild Mustang" comes on. Or when Dennis Kenney does a fan kick into a spin spontaneously. Getting your glutes to literally go numb on ass day and you are worried they might have fallen off. Hearing the DJs go ham with their mixes...I could go on.
What's your go-to down-time activity?
Rosé all day.
Married life! Have any advice to share?
Communication is key. Your spouse isn´t a mind reader! You've got to share and be willing to listen when your partner needs to get something off their mind, too. Holding your feelings in will build and build and make it much worse, and part of a strong relationship is about learning to handle conflict together (from within the relationship or outside!). You are a team.
Beyonce just called. In exchange for babysitting the twins and Blu, you get her ask her for one big giant favor. What do you ask for?
Could I hang with the OG Tina Knowles? For just a day?