Junkies, you know this: there are a whole damn lot of rules about how to be a woman. Some of them are the kind of bullsh*t you get in a society dominated by the patriarchy for waaaay to long. But some of them we place on ourselves -- and it's time we all recognize that and cut it out.
That's why we're crushin' SO. DAMN. HARD. on the latest advice from The Cut -- their kicka$$ columnist Heather Havrilesky killed it with her answer to a woman who spent too much time stressing about how she looked. Heather didn't slam this babe for her concerns -- she made the point that we all have to stop beating ourselves up for caring (or NOT caring) about our looks.
"There’s so much built-in shame that comes with just being a woman with a body who has to put clothes on that body and leave the house," she writes. "Our culture demands that women make an effort to look good, and then it demeans us for doing so. We’re either slobs or we’re high-maintenance girly girls. We are letting it all go as we age or we’re sad cougars chasing our youth. But there are a million and one good reasons to try and not to try, and none of them are simple."
So ladiez, stop beating yourself up for being a #badfeminist if you choose that saucy AF red 💄 or flaunt what yo mama gave ya in yer ((305)) crop top. And don't beat yourself up for staying in your yoga pants and not giving a sh*t about the state of your hair. You are SLAYING every day, in work, in class and just walking down the damn street. Get up and get it, kweens.
Read the whole article here, and check out the other quotes we're printing out and taping to our mirrors:
Want more? Check out Roxane Gay's Bad Feminist or Caitlin Moran's How to be a Woman. And our HBIC Sadie's got a whole rundown of other books to add to your Amazon shopping cart, pronto.